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Brad and Angelina didn't create the perfect couple fantasy. We did.


I don’t believe in love anymore.

What’s the point in getting married?

The reaction from social media and news organisations to the news that Angelina Jolie has filed for divorce from husband of two years, partner of 12, Brad Pitt has been more than incredibly emotional. It’s been personal. As though these two, admittedly very attractive, rich and talented, actors were the love beacon for the rest of the world. They were showing us how to do love and marriage and rainbow families right.

Brad and Angelina were together for 12 years and the reaction to their split has been emotional. Image via Getty.

I know some of the reactions, some of the headlines are tongue in cheek, but a lot are, sadly, heartfelt. Brangelina were the golden couple. They had a better life, a better love than all of us. How could that kind of love end in divorce? Suburban couples fighting over who should get the Toyota corolla and the Cocker Spaniel on anxiety meds divorce, not two people who are obviously so ... so ... perfect and SO IN LOVE.

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Two people who simultaneously star in blockbuster Hollywood movies, jet around the world with their six kids and give their precious time to the UN and other humanitarian causes to help those suffering most in the world.

Totally golden.

Hmm. Really?


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I've never understood the deification of Brangelina. This investment in two fictional characters we have created. Sure, like a lot of other wealthy, beautiful celebrities in the public eye there have been times where I have been envious of their lifestyle: the exotic holidays, the travel, the nights out, the clothes, the indulgences. But envying their relationship? No. Put any two people together in a room for longer than 30 minutes and things get complicated.

Primarily, if I'm honest, the main envy comes from watching two people that don't have to worry about the boring, mundane everyday stuff like vacuuming the carpet, buying the right halogen lights and paying bills. I'm pretty sure Angelina and Brad aren't having conversations about how expensive the electricity bill is this year and when is the last day they can pay the rates and should they downsize because everything is getting so tight.

I can't even imagine what that kind of freedom is like and that kind of freedom is the only domain I think they are different from the rest of us.

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Otherwise their celebrity didn't grant them immunity from being human. For 12 years they lived as a couple raising six children from four different countries: Cambodia, Ethiopa, Vietnam and the US.

Jolie has been married twice before, Pitt once. Famously to Jennifer Aniston and their divorce and his subsequent relationship with Jolie contributed to them, and their family, being constantly followed, photographed and reported on to, what must be, almost breaking point.

In 2013 Jolie had a double mastectomy to prevent the onset of breast cancer and the actor has since had her ovaries removed. Her mother, who she was very close to, Marcheline Bertrand died at 56 after an eight year battle with ovarian and breast cancer.

Jolie's father, actor Jon Voight, walked out on Angelina, her brother and mother when Angelina was one. They have a tumultuous relationship punctuated by long periods of bitter estrangement. Voight said in a television interview that his daughter has "serious mental issues".

Brangelina and their children - Maddox, Pax, Zahara, Shiloh, Knox, Vivienne. Image via Twitter.

Work separates this family of eight regularly. There are long periods where Angelina or Brad are on location for movies, or travelling for humanitarian causes.

Always, through it all, they are a family who is photographed and talked about by the world. Dissected like a line of little beetles in science lab.

At the end of the day, underneath their gloss and our fantasy, the Jolie-Pitts are a married couple with its fair share of family, health and work issues. They are normal, yet not normal.

As the years roll by I've discovered I know less and less about what really goes on in other people's relationships. Some couples make it, other don't. It's actually not easy to predict.

Two people couldn't make it work today. It isn't the end of love. It isn't the end of marriage. It isn't even the end of Angelina Jolie or Brad Pitt.

It's the end of a fantasy we created about a golden couple. A beautiful, rich, talented pair who had a special life, yes. But not a perfect relationship.

No one does. No matter how much we want them to.

Feature Image via Getty.