I expected things to get spicy. Truly.
There was one friend who did consistently revert back to, “Remember my [insert ex-boyfriend who slept with ‘just a friend’]…” but honestly, most of my female friends didn’t feel this way.
The idea of rules elicited this type of response, “PUL-LEASE. RULES?”
In light of this – our self-assured, considered opinions – here are the real “rules” that my 20-something-aged friends have about their male partners daring to cross paths with another female.
Rule 1: That’s cool. But I get male friends, too.
This was the overwhelming response from my friends. They are completely happy with their boyfriends to be friends with the opposite sex because half of their friends were male.
“I don’t really have a choice but to be fine with it because so many of my close friends are boys,” my friend, Em* wrote.
Jess and Schmidt from New Girl. Image via Facebook.
"I would never stop him from having friendships with women. EVER," Prisha said.
"Also because I have many guy friends that if he tried to stop me being friends with guys, would be a big deal for me. It's def the double standards thing."
Rule 2: Can I please know the woman?
While Em is definitely down for her boyfriend befriending people of any gender, it is easier if she knows the woman.
"I guess the one reason I am so okay with it is because I have made sure I form my own relationships with the girls too. Perhaps it would be different if they are strangers, but I make sure I make an effort and then it's totally fine," she told me.
In my effort to be more like my journalist hero, Leigh Sales, I decided to press Em on this point.
What if her boyfriend suddenly started hanging out with a new woman at his work? They started getting lunch every Wednesday? What happens then?
Fortunately, Em didn't crumble under the Sales pressure.
Should you have rules for your relationship? And if so, what are they? (Post continues after audio.)
"Yeah if he wasn't trying to hide her from me and he wanted us to meet!" Em happily responded.