Many couples consider getting a pet a kind of practice run for future parenthood. Pets bring new responsibilities, unexpected bills and a hungry mouth to feed again, and again, and again.
A woman has turned to the anonymous forums of Reddit for help after she witnessed some concerning behaviour between her boyfriend and their newly adopted cat.
The 29-year-old explained her boyfriend, 30, seemed unable to discipline the animal without resorting to extreme measures.
“His reactions are generally pretty aggressive and he will spank his cat or pick her up and yell at her,” she wrote.
“I grab her from him and tell him that this behavior will only trigger more anxiety in the cat.”
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The woman said these aggressive episodes generally occurred hours after the incident in question.
“He gets after the cat hours after the event happened, and you HAVE to catch the cat in the act or right before for them to get the point. He knows this. He just doesn’t care,” she wrote.
“He says that I’m babying her and that she’s just going to think it’s okay.”
The violence inflicted upon the cat was said to have become so extreme, the woman was reconsidering the option of children in their future.
“We have been together long enough to talk about marriage and kids, and based off his reactions to having a cat, it makes me reevaluate wanting children with him,” she wrote.
When the pattern of violence was brought to his attention. he was said to have commented that “cats aren’t the same as kids”.
The concerned girlfriend went on to share how she can’t share this view.
“If you can’t be patient enough to deal with a cat, what makes you think you can handle a kid? It’s a really big red flag with me, but he dismisses it entirely,” she wrote.
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