If you are the mother of a child, the father of a child or just happen to spend some time in the company of anyone with a child you will be familiar with the agony that is toilet training.
Take a quick scroll through any Facebook parents’ group and you’ll read the same questions again and again.
“When did you know your child was ready?”
“My son refuses to poo. What do I do?”
“Help! Toilet training regression.”
“What age should I start toilet training?”
While the answers are reassuring and fall into the “don’t worry they won’t be wearing nappies when they are an adult” area it can be a trying time for all involved.
But the experts are telling us that it may be modern parenting that’s making it so difficult.
Studies show us that in 1957, the average age to start training was 11 months, and 90 per cent of children were dry during the day by age two.
It's concerning that a recent survey found more children were starting school without being toilet trained than five years ago.
Anecdotally the teachers suggested the reason was due to children not being trained at home, before starting school, as well as the reliance on pull-up nappies.
The Telegraph reports that one teacher said “school toilets are not designed for changing children. I end up supplying wipes and even spare underwear from my own pocket. Accidents do happen, but the expectation that I’m part of the toilet-training process is a step too far.”
Author Robin Barker, of the Baby Love series told Fairfax Media that she believes parents priorities have changed.
“They drift along and wait until the child is three or even four and hope they will come out of nappies in a couple of days.
''In effect, we have doubled the time that children are in nappies. There is also the feeling of, 'what does it matter, what the hell'. Our priorities have changed. We want kids to be talking Mandarin and playing the violin and they are still wobbling around in nappies.''