It’s the secret that you won’t find published in any baby books. You won’t read it on a mummy blog and you definitely won’t hear it from your GP, midwife, Early Childhood Health nurse or any so-called parenting expert.
Nobody has any idea when it comes to parenting. Nobody knows the solution to parenting. Nobody knows the answer to any of the questions you face as a parent.
They just have their opinions.
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Even though my daughter is now seven-months-old, I kind of knew this secret before she was born. It only really hit me a couple of weeks ago though.
I was struggling with my baby's sleeping habits. While sleep was on her top list of favourite things to do, she had suddenly gone from a baby who slept through the night to waking at 6am, then 5am, then 4am, then 3am and 5am.
I googled. I asked every parenting friend I knew. I grabbed the baby books off the shelf and searched desperately for the answer - how do I get her back to sleeping through? Here were the answers:
Go cold turkey on the dummy. She can't go back to sleep without the dummy. It's the dummy's fault.
Keep the dummy, better than her sucking on her thumb, but let her cry it out for 10 minutes.
Go straight to her, you should never let a baby cry it out.
Maybe it's her nappy?
Drop the dreamfeed, it's making her wet her nappy which is waking her up.
She's probably too cold.
She's probably too hot.
Wake her before she wakes up to restart her sleep cycles.
As a first time mum, I felt so confused and lost. Every answer conflicted the other. That's when it clicked, no one really knows why a baby wakes up randomly in the night after being a good sleeper. Everyone is just guessing, or telling you what they tried and worked.