When it comes to Mother’s Day, what would be your ideal morning?
Would it be waking to find Sonny Blake wearing a little bowtie delivering you breakfast like Zoe Foster-Blake did?
Or would be more like Bec Judd's morning - a simple one complete with coffee and kids in bed?
Inevitably, when Mother's day rolls around every year, the stories of our mums, the photos of their kids photos and shout outs about some of our greatest women saturate our social media feeds.
There are the new mums, like Lauren Brant:
The ultra famous mums, like Drew Barrymore:
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I rarely post on Facebook and I deleted my Instagram because it just seems so fake and artificial. It was amazing to me to see how many people on my Friends lists were posting these filtered photos and OTT posts when I know the truth behind so many of their stories. One husband posted this huge paragraph about how much he loved and missed his wife when his wife just last week told me that she found he had been cheating on her with sex workers, will hardly talk to her and hasn't been intimate with her in two years. My cousin then posted a status about how her husband made her breakfast in bed and was a great husband when he told us a few months back she tried to chase him out of the house with a knife and they've been separated about 3 times. It's just way too fake for me. For Mother's Day I told my Mum I loved her, gave her a card, a present and baked her scones. I didn't need to post it on Facebook for likes.
My Mum died 3 months ago. My husband did nothing except thrust the breakfast I bought myself into my hands before disappearing into the toilet for 30 mins. Then when I pointed out that I was a little disappointed in his lack of effort he gave me the silent treatment for 2 hours. So what was already a bad day was made much worse. My beautiful 5 year old gave me hugs and kisses and "shared" my breakfast so that helped.
I'm so sorry today wasn't made special for you - losing a parent is so hard. I'm not a fan of all this glorified social media mummydom, but would like to wish you, and your darling Mum, a very happy day.
Don't worry about your husband, after all he is nothing to do with your Mother's Day. Just be thankful for the wonderful mother you had and hold on to your wonderful memories, the beautiful five year old you have now, who is going to fill your future Mother's Days with joy.
Happy Mother's Day and I'm sorry for your loss Me. Try to focus on your daughter today and leave your husband's behaviour aside for now if you can. I would also seek help from a counsellor. It sounds like he is a little too focused on reading his phone on the loo to help you right now and losing your mum is lonely enough without lack of support in your relationship.
It sounds like you have a wonderful child though. Sorry for your loss x