When you’re talking about your wedding, I’m smiling. I can genuinely picture the beach setting, the live quartet the table centre-pieces you can’t stop debating.
I’m smiling, but I’m not going to attend.
While you’re listing the flower options, your dress requirements and the plans for your honeymoon, I am mentally preparing my own list.
The dress I will have to purchase. The shoes I will need to match. The hair-cut I am desperately in need of. The makeup requirements. Not to mention travel /accommodation / a gift for you to say ‘thank you’, and ‘congratulations’ and ‘all my love’.
That’s where my mind is. That’s why I can’t attend.
On average, Australians spend around $694 to go to a wedding as a guest. (Yes, almost $700 to be a guest). Most of us will actually consider paying up to $1,300 before deciding to skip it all together.
This is according to a recent survey, which found more than a quarter of Australians (26%) have not attended a wedding because it’s too expensive. (Count me in!)
The logistics of the day – travel, accommodation, etc. – are part of it.
Then there’s the wedding gift, for which we pay, on average, $127 a pop.
Then there’re the appearance factors.
Women spend approximately $139 on a new outfit, men spend only $20 less than that on a new suit (what suit can you get for that price?). There are shoes, handbags, jewellery, hair, makeup, manicures, pedicures, spray tans to consider… the list goes on. In fact, for presentation itself, women spend around $300 and men spend almost $200 sprucing themselves up for (someone else’s) big day.