Many moons ago I met a divorced father of two. I was young and in love and incredibly naive. In my mind, I didn’t think his previous marriage would affect us at all. I’d never heard the statistic that the divorce rate among the remarried is much higher.
We happily believed that we’d learnt from our past relationships and our marriage would be better because we knew better. He hated arguing and I didn’t like being told what to do. We communicated these needs to each other and looked forward to a perfect and brilliant future together.
Except it didn’t quite work out that way. We were presented with many unique challenges that only the remarried face. The best of intentions didn’t save us from any of it. Now, we understand why the divorce rate among second marriages is higher.
This week a report was released showing that men who divorce and remarry are 27% more likely to be on antidepressants. I’d love to be able to dismiss this report, but it’s from a reputable study of more than 200,000 men born between 1952 and 1956. The study has been been published in the academic journal, Social Science and Medicine.
Any good news to share? Only this. Men who had stayed married and never divorced were less depressed. Professor Scott Montgomery who led the study told The Daily Mail there are several theories explaining these results, everything from difficult relationships with in-laws to children and money.