I’m a 36 year old married woman with two kids aged two and eight months. So my life is pretty much over haha…kidding.
When I was younger I always thought I’d have kids around the age of 30. However, life took another course for me.
I didn’t meet my husband until I was 33, while I was mid-panic about ending up a single and childless 40-something – not that there’s anything wrong with that, I just wanted a family.
So, I had my first baby at 34, my second at 35 and we’re now considering whether or not we go again.
Siobhan's two kids. Image supplied.
It turns out that the fact it took a little longer that I originally planned (as much as you can plan these things!) to find ‘the one’ and settle down was a blessing because it means that now I am completely content and overwhelmingly happy.
I am so grateful for all of the life experience I had before getting married and having kids, because it’s made me a better person and means there’s no way I’ll ever get itchy feet.
I’m not saying that it’s this way or the highway. To each her own, and all of that. Many are utterly content at a young age to get hitched and raise little ones, without having seen the world much first. But, from my experience, before you settle down and have kids you should do the following.
Explore. A lot.
I can thank my multiple trips overseas for broadening my horizons, changing the way I see the world, and giving me experiences you only get while backpacking at the age of 21 (like finding unmentionable things on the shower floor in a budget backpackers, running out of money in London thus having to telemarket Hula Hoops - the chip, not the toy - just to get by, and eating plain 60pence pasta every night with just a little bit of rationed cheese on top).
This also means that my feet aren’t ‘itchy’ now. I’ve still well and truly got the travel bug though, and am determined to pass that onto our kids.