We both knew we wanted to start our family straight away. We were both healthy and didn’t think it would take long to fall pregnant. It didn’t and we were delighted to find out we were pregnant within the first month of our marriage. Everything was perfect.
When 12 weeks came along, we rented a bigger home as our unit was tiny. At the 16-week mark, I felt something wasn’t quite right so I went to the hospital for a check-up. They couldn’t find the baby’s heartbeat with the doppler but told me not to panic because the bub was probably hiding.
We were ushered into a dark room for our scan and the sonographer went from cheerful to silent as she kept taking pictures and said nothing. My heart dropped. I knew my baby was gone. The sonographer said, “I’m so sorry but there’s no heartbeat, your baby has passed away.”
We followed up with the obstetrician and were told nothing was abnormal, it was just ‘one of those things’ and to try again. We did and to my surprise, I fell pregnant quickly again.
This time I was nervous. Everyone was reassuring me but I was being cautious, eating all the right foods and doing everything you are supposed to when you’re pregnant. Around the same 16-week mark, I starting bleeding and was told the same words, 'your baby has passed away'. Once again the results came back with nothing and I was told it was a coincidence and to try again.