What’s your number?
How many people a person has had sex with is a deeply personal thing. For women, it’s also a number met with double standards that don’t apply to men.
If you’ve only slept with one or two people, you’re frigid. But sleep with 10, 20, 30, 100 people, and you’re promiscuous.
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When Mamamia surveyed over 1,000 women aged 18-75 about their sex lives, it became pretty clear there’s no ‘normal’ answer to that question.
We had responses ranging from zero, right through to more than 200.
But what’s more important than how many sexual partners a woman has had is how she feels about that number.
Of the women who spoke to us, some said, bar from one or two one-night stands, they don’t regret how many people they’ve slept with. Others wish their number was lower because they’ve been made to feel ashamed about their sexuality.
A portion of women who said they’ve only slept with one person said they feel like having a low number is daggy and uncool. Some wonder if they’ve missed out on important sexual experiences.
Then, many said they literally never think about their number at all.
To unpack the stigma and shame around female sexuality and a woman’s ‘all important number’, 50 Australian women shared their honest experiences.
“I’m in my mid twenties and have never had sex, so no previous partners. In some circles, I feel embarrassed to admit this.”
“My husband, and I am so thankful we have not had sex with anyone else.”
“As a Christian, I chose not to have sex before getting married. I don’t have any regrets.”
“I have been having sex with my boyfriend for seven years, and he is the only person I have been with. I am embarrassed to tell people that I’ve only had sex with one person.”