Difficult children, demanding mothers, frisky fathers and loneliness. Parents yelling at them, being treated like a maid, not being paid for overtime…
Being punished for eating their food!
These are the most common gripes of au pairs on a new Tumblr site called Au Pair Confessions, where au pairs around the world go to vent about the difficulty of their profession.
The site describes itself as:
An au pair confessional run by real au pairs! Submit your crazy stories and embarrassing moments, just be sure not to use real names!
Au Pairs under a veil of anonymity share their struggles and also offer each other advice and guidance if they find themselves in less-than-ideal situations. As an au pair, it’s nice to know there is somewhere to turn if the dream job turns into a nightmare.
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As a parent, it’s a disturbing read.
I’m going to miss the cat more than I’m going to miss the kids Au Pair Confessions, Anon
I legitimately hate one of my host kids. I am constantly having to stop myself from hitting him. 12 year olds are the f**king worst. Au Pair Confessions, Anon.
I HATE THE DAUGHTER. I f**king hate her. I hope she trips in a puddle or something. Au Pair Confessions
And while I understand the temptation of helping yourself to the kid’s treats on occasion, many would not.
So I had a chocolate popsicle from the fridge. I thought it wasn’t a big deal, but the next morning one of my host kids was making such a fuss about one of the popsicles missing. My host mom helped him to look for it while I was making breakfast and trying to keep a straight line. They have the treats numbered! Au Pair Confessions, Anon.
Some au pairs really dislike the children they are meant to be taking care of and some of the children sound like absolute monsters.
Raising kids is hard, especially when they aren't your own and particularly when disaster strikes.
All my kids have lice...enough said. Au Pair Confessions, Anon.
It seems that becoming an au pair - travel, new experiences, new countries, new cultures - is a bit of a minefield and while many experiences are wonderful, some sound like total nightmares.
I don't know whether I have unrealistic expectations. My family pretty much always ask me to start early and I often finish late. They add a couple of extra hours a week like it's no big deal. Au Pair Confessions, Anon.
When you travel for work it's certainly a risk so it's always good to have a back up plan in the form of consular information and the details of friends and relatives you can turn to.
My HD [home dad] will get angry and shout at me telling me how horrible I am and I am a burden. Then one time when I was eating my dinner with them he told me that I shouldn't be eating with them and my food is suppose to be different from them. Oh, and their children are all rude and lack discipline. I got fed up and told them that I am not a MAID, that I am an au pair (they didn't send me to language school), that I want to leave their house. My HD told me that I can't leave yet and they will decide when they will let me go and they told me that I have no rights to tell them my opinion and I better shut up or they will call the police and I will be deported back to my country. So that night I called my friend, packed my bag and left them. Au Pair Confessions, Anon.