By RACHEL WALD
My kind, clever, funny, witty, generous, amazing brother got married recently. His partner is absolutely beautiful in every way and we could not be more thrilled. They are a perfect match. My brother has never been happier.
And there isn’t a bride in sight.
I have a new brother-in-law. I love Dan and I’m honoured to have him join our family.
They married in LA, where people seem to fear carbohydrates, but not marriage between two men.
Being gay isn’t my brother’s one defining feature. I don’t introduce him to people as “my gay brother James.” He just happens to be gay. Just like I happen to be straight. I’m writing about it here because gay marriage isn’t legal in Australia, and I really think it should be. I’m hopeful that in 20 years time, we’ll all look back and wonder what the big deal was.
I know there are some in Australia who oppose gay people having the right to marry. They have their reasons. I’ve heard some of them, and I’d like to address them here.
1. Gay marriage isn’t natural.
Firstly, what does that even mean? Cancer is natural, it doesn’t mean I want some. I’d argue that love between two consenting adults is perfectly natural. It’s beautiful, except when one of them is a dickhead, and that has nothing to do with them being gay or straight.
And anyway, Doritos are not natural, and they are awesome.
2. I’m all for equality, just not gay marriage.
I have heard this so many times and I’m confused by it. As far as I can tell, equality doesn’t come in fits and starts. You can’t believe in equality for women but think it’s OK for women to be paid less for the same job. You can’t just pick and choose the bits you want to be equal. Equality is about being equal in all areas, isn’t it?