Human nature means each individual functions differently, and while an admittance of wrongdoing such as "that was not okay, and I am sorry," works for some - it definitely doesn't work for everyone.
That's where apology languages come in.
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Why do apology languages matter?
People mess up, and expressing remorse, taking responsibility and accepting blame are all key to delivering a well-meaning and real apology. However, the delivery of an apology can sway from acceptable to err, not so acceptable.
So knowing all about apology languages, and expressing the right ones to those around you - especially your partner - can lead to fulfilling, and longer-lasting relationships.
Gary Chapman, Ph.D. and psychologist Jennifer Thomas, Ph.D. developed and created the apology language system, in an effort to cater to the multitudes of ways people want to be approached with an apology.
Chapman and Thomas delve deeper into apology languages in their book: When Sorry Isn’t Enough.
While there are many people who can lean more strongly into one apology language, it is very possible that you can have more than a few depending on the situation.
Here are the five apology languages, what they mean and how to recognise which one you connect the most with.
1. Expressing regret.
This apology language is key for people who believe words only mean something if remorse is evident.
Remember that for this specific language especially, the apology doesn’t count if someone is only saying sorry because they got caught.