“Be proud of yourself.”
To my dear friend,
Your first baby is walking now. What a milestone. You made it. You got through the baby stage and now you have a toddler.
You should be proud.
You got through it after a difficult labour. A labour that would leave most of us reeling. You were so strong. I remember hearing your birth story while I was pregnant with my second baby. Your story nearly had me signing up for another caesarean. But your strength simply shone and carried you through an experience that would break many others.
You got through it after struggling to breastfeed. Breastfeeding is so hard. They don’t tell you that while you’re pregnant with your first. All you hear is how good it is for baby, how lovely it is for mummy, and that it’s the most beneficial thing you can do. You don’t hear about low supply, or even about over supply. You don’t hear about flooding the baby. You don’t hear about cracked nipples, or mastitis or about just how damn long it takes to finish a single feed. But you stuck at it. You were nothing but determined.
And then, when I called you sobbing my heart out when my baby was just days old because I couldn’t breastfeed, you told me it would be okay. You were there for me in a way no one else was.