I have a wedding coming up for a family member and while I’m really looking forward to it, I’m a bit nervous. There are quite a few family feuds going on and I can imagine the couple’s attempts to do a seating chart looks a bit like The Red Wedding on Game of Thrones.
The only comfort is that both sides are as bad as each other so it’s not like someone’s family is more problematic than the other one.
Each is it’s own brand of crazy.
With that in mind, and my own nervousness being taken into consideration, I’m wondering if it’s a good idea to serve alcohol at this wedding. I’m not a drinker but even I’ve been tempted to knock back a couple of shots of “liquid courage” just to get me through this one.
But what if it makes me too relaxed, too confident and too talkative?
In the movie The Wedding Singer, drunk best man and brother of the groom Dave reveals a little too much during his toast. Courtesy of New Line Cinema. Article continues after this video.
Even if I turn out to be a happy drunk intent on hugging my enemies and spreading love, in a situation such as this one it is likely to create more problems. Then there could be some angry drunks … I shiver at the thought of how this particular wedding will end up.
It turns out I’m not the first one to consider a “dry wedding” and it’s not just family feuds leading couples to stick to non-alcoholic beverages at weddings. It’s also the cost. I stumbled across this post on a wedding discussion board at the website Wedding Bee. This couple is having an afternoon wedding and wondering if they can get away with not serving grog.
So my fiance and I have been wedding planing like crazy and we are trying to decide if we really want alcohol at our wedding. The majority of his family can and will drink a TON, and things can escalate quickly. Meanwhile my family is fine without. What are your feelings on a dry wedding? We are aiming for a early afternoon wedding, small (50 people, mainly family). Like I said, the driving for is that his side of the family cant always handle alcohol. Plus it can save money
There was a lot of support, with people suggesting that because it was an afternoon not evening wedding they could get away with it and that a few delicious mocktails might soften the blow.
Another suggested still serving champagne for toasts.
If it’s an afternoon wedding I can’t imagine anyone would be disappointed. Maybe including a champagne toast would be nice – no one can go overboard with one glass of champagne!
Although someone else suggested this may be confusing for guests who upon being served champagne may wonder where the rest of the alcohol was being kept.