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The tweet about miscarriage that's been shared almost 100,000 times.

This article deals with an account of miscarriage that could be triggering for some readers.

“Why don’t you have kids?”

“When are you having another child?”

Nooooo. No. No. No.

These may seem like harmless questions, but they’re not. They can be incredibly uncomfortable for many people to answer.

Canadian woman Lisa Marie has posted about why questions like this are hurtful, and her tweets have since gone viral.

The point of her tweet is that questions about having children are never appropriate. She expanded on her point in two further tweets.


Her thread resonated with many people on Twitter, with the original tweet receiving more than 93,000 retweets and more than 418,000 likes.

Losa also inspired others to share their own experiences.

“We had a beautiful baby boy four years ago but he was under size and under weight. He’s the tallest one in his class now. I started telling people who ask about siblings ‘That’s an intrusive question,’ to give them an out before I explain it and then they feel more awkward,” one user replied.

“My partner has PCOS and I have primary infertility. I still get the ‘oh but it might happen still’ from people who think that’s a good way of dealing. Lots of Internet hugs to you for talking about this,” another said.

Unfortunately the tweet also received unsolicited ‘advice’ from others suggesting adoption or fostering, to which Lisa reminded them that was not the point of her thread.

Repeat after us: Someone else’s reproductive history or choices are no one’s business but their own.

Have you ever been on the receiving end of these questions? Tell us what you think about it in the comments below.

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