By:  A.S. Chung  for Divorced Moms .

Love is not enough.

The average length of courtship prior to making this lifelong commitment is approximately three years. Most would agree that during those years, the relationship is blissful and filled with beautiful moments of discovering each other and more importantly, coming to the belief that we were so suited to each other and we could easily live out the rest of our lives together.

In hindsight, despite believing I married the love of my life, I was completely naïve. Basing my promised vows with only love as a premise was simply inadequate. We didn’t look into the future and think about the big picture. We didn’t pre-empt the possible obstacles that could come our way or the what-ifs should our relationship start to dwindle. As a result of that, we were not prepared when things went awry. Divorce ensued and while I am wiser about relationships, I inherited a new title: Divorcee.

"In hindsight, despite believing I married the love of my life, I was completely naïve." Image via iStock.

So newlyweds, should you wish to not only survive a marriage that lasts a lifetime but also enjoy the journey, here is some marital advice - painstakingly earned from a failed partnership:

1. Combating the tough times.

Until you have experienced some challenging times, it is a very difficult thing to imagine or empathise with. But if the marriage were to last the average life expectancy, that could potentially be a 50- to 60-year relationship. In that time, anything could happen and it is important to be prepared for those tough scenarios. Ask these questions of each other by using some examples such as business failures, illness or financial hardship:

"Until you have experienced some challenging times, it is a very difficult thing to imagine or empathise with." Image via iStock.

2. Creating a family.

Having children has been a major contributor to divorce. Until you have a family, you have absolutely no idea how your life will change and what kind of parent you will be. No two families are the same and no two children are the same. You go from a happy couple with no serious responsibilities to losing the only lifestyle you have ever known together. Throw in a mortgage, car loans and one less income as someone has to stay at home with the baby, and suddenly you enter into a very serious time in your life. You may love someone with all your heart, but sleep deprivation, financial stress and dirty nappies can most definitely put a strain on any relationship. Ask yourselves these questions:

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3. Make time for yourselves as a couple.

It is so easy to fall into a trap of leading extremely busy lives filled with work obligations and family commitments. Life is flying by so quickly, couples are making calendar appointments for date nights! Well, at least they are being proactive, but let’s not lose a little spontaneity to keep the flame alight. Making time doesn’t always have to involve elaborate plans and expensive ventures. Sometimes the little things count the most.

"Counselling does not mean your broken, your just getting a tune up." Image via iStock.

4. Attend marriage counselling.

Attend marriage counselling even if there is nothing fundamentally wrong with your relationship. Look at it as an annual “marriage health check.”

"Marriage is a promise, take it seriously." Image via iStock.

5. Divorce is not an option.

The gravity of this lifelong commitment has diminished over the decades. Divorce is no longer taboo, is easy to enforce and the perfect solution to eliminating unhappiness. We must learn to enter into a marriage understanding that divorce is not negotiable.

A successful marriage is also based on empathy, consideration, thoughtfulness, sympathy, tenacity, willingness to compromise, responsibility and keeping the biggest promise you will ever make in your life.

What advice would you offer newlyweds?

This article was originally published on Divorced Moms.

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