It’s all going to be okay. Things are totally crappy right now but this moment, this feeling, is temporary. I’m not going to sugarcoat anything — the next few years will be more than challenging, and you will need to prepare yourself.
1. What's "normal" is different.
In the short term, you will lose weight, have trouble sleeping, and question everything. Don't be alarmed. This is NORMAL. In the wild, an injured animal will hole up somewhere safe, and allow itself time alone to heal. This is your time to burrow. There's no rush. Eventually, you will have to make decisions — important ones — but for now they can wait.
2. Everything has changed.
Life, as you know it, is going to change. You will have to make many sacrifices including selling the home you live in, cutting back on your lifestyle, cooking more meals and letting the nanny go. But you will handle all of the transitions with grace and ingenuity. You will enjoy spending more time with your children. You will make the move an adventure. I encourage ceremonies and gratitude at times of major change. For example, plant a tree that will live on the property long after you've moved on.
3. You must stay open.
People from all walks of life are going to give you advice. Listen politely and with appreciation (they mean well), then decide for yourself what resonates and is adoptable, and what's rubbish, and can be ignored. Most will advise you to close your heart. This is something that you will not do. It will take courage to keep it open. When the pain is overwhelming, you will want to close it forever ... but an open heart is gorgeous, and it's who you are at your core.