There’s a lot Abby Gilmore has learnt in the last few years.
The ex-fiancé of AFL Western Bulldogs forward Jake Stringer says as she’s gotten older, she’s become more selective of who she calls her friends and who she actively cuts out of her life.
Writing for Kidspot, she says, “There comes a point in your life when you need to prioritise yourself and your family and let go of toxic relationships.”
At just 24, Abby found herself at the centre of a national scandal, after discovering her then-fiance had cheated on her with multiple partners – the first of which took place just six weeks after giving birth to their second daughter.
“In those early days, I really relied on my friends to fill a void. To love me back together again,” she says. But, gradually, she realised this was leading her to be taken advantage of.
“I got so sick of always being the ‘yes girl’, particularly when bad things started happening to me,” she says.
“I was always sticking out my neck for people, but sometimes people don’t realise or know what you for them. They don’t know what the hours before seeing them look like.”
Why friendship break ups might be worse than romantic ones: the Mamamia Out Loud team discuss. Post continues after audio.
However, there’s also another trap that Abby sees ‘yes girls’ falling into, and to an extent, something she blames herself for.