When you’re pregnant or have a new baby, everyone gives you advice. The shop assistant, the kind old dear walking past, the work know-it-all… you name them and they’ve got an opinion. I had two babies in under 18 months so, boy, have I heard more than enough.
And as far as I’m concerned there are some that you can really just take or leave…
1. “When you have a newborn, just don’t worry about doing house work.”
Bollocks. Easier said than done. My child needs clean onesies and the family needs to eat.
2. “Sleep when the baby sleeps.”
Great idea, in theory. But then when would the complete mess of a house get sorted, when would I eat or shower, and when on earth would I get just five minutes of ‘me’ time?
3. “You NEED this bassinet/pram/bed/latest-greatest-baby-product.”
Nope, you need the basics. You could keep buying baby products until you were blue in the face and still find there’s something you don’t have that everyone says you MUST get. Once the basics are covered, the rest are optional extras and sometimes a big fat waste of money.
4. “Keep the baby in their own cot in your room for the first 6-12 months.”
Yes, I know it’s a SIDS and Kids recommendation, but what about how damn noisy babies are, making it pretty hard to sleep? And what if you want to have some couple time and reclaim your bedroom? If you follow all the other SIDS recommendations, and use a good baby monitor with a sensor, I don’t see the harm in moving them prior to the six month mark, and if it means you get a better sleep and are more capable during the day then it’s a win win.