The post your partner wants you to read iVillage Team February 2, 2011 Shake up your sex life with 70 tips that will drive you and your partner wild and don’t forget to join our Facebook page here to keep up to date… Sex basics: a sexy soakSex basics: a sexy soakSex in the bath is fun but can be tricky. Try this: fill the bath halfway with water, then pour plenty of bath gel over each other's bodies. Sex basics: good vibrationsSex basics: good vibrationsTake turns with the TongueJoy Oral Vibrator (from blissbox.com). Sex basics: play TwisterSex basics: play Twister......in the nude. And wet. It removes inhibitions and gets you in positions you wouldn't usually attempt. From our partner Sex basics: a new angleSex basics: a new angleBy placing a pillow under your bottom you're creating an orgasm optimum 26-degree pelvic tilt, which means maximum contact between his body and your clitoris. Sex basics: keep it clean(ish)Sex basics: keep it clean(ish)Have your man sit on top of the washing machine while you have sex (you perched on top, with your legs wrapped around his waist). Bedroom basics: Don't go solo with your vibratorBedroom basics: Don't go solo with your vibratorOnly 25% of women climax through penetrative sex alone, so get your man to pleasure you with a sex toy while he's at it. Sex basics: Talk dirtySex basics: Talk dirtyAsk him to talk to you when he's going down on you. The vibrations from his voice and the unpredictability of it will make you come even quicker. From our partner Sex basics: good tasteSex basics: good tasteFeed your man cinnamon, cardamom, peppermint and lemon if you're planning to give him oral sex. It'll make his semen taste nicer. Sex basics: no deep divingSex basics: no deep divingMake him stay at the shallow end to make sex better for you. Sex basics: bad tasteSex basics: bad tasteAnd don't let him near garlic, onions, curry or asparagus - all these foods will make his semen taste unpleasant. Sex basics: use Chinese herbs and tonicsUse Chinese herbs and tonicsFor centuries the Chinese have used herbs and tonics to enhance their sex lives. From our partner Sex basics: pearls for himSex basics: pearls for himConvince him to buy you more jewellery by masturbating him with a string of pearls. Sex basics: he nose itSex basics: he nose itAsk him to use his nose when he's going down on you. Most men genuinely love the smell of a woman and the nose makes an excellent clitoral stimulator. Sex basics: take to the roadSex basics: take to the roadIf you enjoy outdoor sex, try this: take a drive to the country, open the car's sunroof and perch yourself on the edge of it, with your legs dangling down i Sex basics: get experimentalSex basics: get experimentalSpice up your sex life by doing it in the cupboard under the stairs - seriously. From our partner Sex basics: get dizzySex basics: get dizzyHave sex on a swivel chair to make sex really exciting. Sex positions: limber up!Sex positions: limber up!Make your man feel bigger inside you by placing your legs over his shoulders when having sex in the missionary position. Sex basics: go redSex basics: go redColours create a sexy mood. Red, dark blue and violet are the three most erotic colours. And the least erotic? Sex positions: give him a squeezeSex positions: give him a squeezeLie face-down on the bed and invite your man to lie on top of you, keeping his legs outside yours. From our partner Sex positions: the tuckSex positions: the tuckSit on top of him with your feet tucked in tight either side of his bum. Sex positions: doggy revisitedSex positions: doggy revisitedMake doggy style work for you. Sex positions: sexy spoonsSex positions: sexy spoonsGet extra clitoral stimulation in the classic 'spoons' position with a simple body twist. Sexual appetite: scream for ice cream!Sexual appetite: scream for ice cream!Make oral sex better for you and for him with some ice cream. From our partner Sexual appetite: crush a grapeSexual appetite: crush a grapeChill some grapes in the freezer for at least 20 minutes. Sexual appetite: get your greensSexual appetite: get your greensPeel two thirds of a reasonably sized cucumber (make it organic, you don't want pesticides on your skin), and leave in the freezer for 40 minutes. Sexual appetite: getting fruitySexual appetite: getting fruityForget unwieldy ice cubes for adding sensation to oral sex - pop a mouthful of frozen berries or tropical fruits in your mouth instead. Sexual appetite: minty freshSexual appetite: minty freshTake turns pouring minty alcohol into your belly buttons, dipping your tongues and tracing shapes around each other's bodies. From our partner Sexual appetite: chemical highSexual appetite: chemical highForget the old sex and chocolate recommendations - cheese contains more phenylethylamine, the chemical that gives you that chocolate 'high'. Sexual appetite: plain and simpleSexual appetite: plain and simpleIf you still prefer chocolate, make it plain rather than milk. Sexual appetite: start the day the right waySexual appetite: start the day the right wayTo get him ready for sex in the morning, make him cereal with chopped apple and almonds - both have high levels of phenylethylamine, which will Sexual appetite: what a pear!Sexual appetite: what a pear!Eat avocado to get in the mood for love. It's loaded with the feel-good, pleasure-intensifying substance, phenylethylamine. From our partner Sexual appetite: break open the bubblesSexual appetite: break open the bubblesTake a swig of champagne before going down on him. Food and sex: getting freshFood and sex: getting freshMost people know that mints can make oral sex even better (and is handy for freshening breath, too), but did you know that M&S's Curiously Strong Mints a Fire up your foreplay: get roughFire up your foreplay: get roughDon't be too gentle when you're giving him a helping hand. Fire up your foreplay: going deepFire up your foreplay: going deepMen do love the sensation of their penis deep inside your throat. Why? From our partner Fire up your foreplay: the big OFire up your foreplay: the big OLicking his penis like a lollipop is fine for foreplay but, if you're trying to get him to orgasm, he needs some friction. Fire up the foreplay: enjoy yourselfFire up the foreplay: enjoy yourselfDon't get stuck on sucking him - there's nothing worse for a man than if a woman is 'working' too hard when giving fellatio. Fire up the foreplay: sweet musicFire up the foreplay: sweet musicSing to him while you give him oral pleasure. Fire up the foreplay: exploring unchartered territoryFire up the foreplay: exploring unchartered territoryExplore his nether regions more fully. From our partner Fire up your foreplay: watch the prosFire up your foreplay: watch the prosWatch porn. A recent survey found that women are just as aroused by watching erotic films as men. Animal behaviour: go apeAnimal behaviour: go apeGo ape to improve your sex life. Gorillas may have tiny penises (less than 3cm long) but they make up for it with hours of arousing mutual grooming. Animal behaviour: have a nibbleAnimal behaviour: have a nibbleSeals bite each other during sex and it seems there's good reason for it. Animal behaviour: make him unstoppable!Animal behaviour: make him unstoppable!Tease your man into training by telling him about the male giant water bug. From our partner He says: special movesHe says:'When my girlfriend's on top, she sometimes does this extra-special move: instead of moving up and down, she does a figure-of-eight swivel with her hips. He says: tricksHe says:'I met this girl last year who kept a bottle of vodka in the freezer. He says: use your handsHe says:'I love it when a girl stimulates me with her hands while she's standing behind me. He says: wrap me upHe says:'There's nothing better than having a girl wrap her legs around you, locking her ankles together. From our partner He says: clothes onHe says:'I just love it when a girl keeps some of her clothes on during sex - skirt, shirt or, better still, boots or stilettos. It makes it feel illicit - and so arousing.' He says: get downHe says:'My girlfriend loves going down on me while I'm still soft. It really turns her on to think that she can make me hard with a few flicks and twists of her tongue. He says: pelvic floorHe says:'After my partner had our second child, she did pelvic exercises to strengthen her vaginal muscles. A few months later, the sex was better than ever.' He says: hands and mouthsHe says:'The best oral sex involves more than a mouth and tongue. From our partner He says: think outside the squareHe says:'My wife's just had a baby, so sex feels different now. He says: penetration is optionalHe says:'Penetration isn't essential for a great orgasm. An ex-girlfriend of mine used to sit on top of me, with my penis flattened against my stomach. He says: underwearHe says:'My girlfriend ties a stocking around the base of my penis before it's erect. Then she licks me till I'm hard. He says: hold me downHe says:'I get embarrassed by the idea of my wife tying me up, but sometimes she simply holds me down by the wrists. From our partner He says: never stop learningHe says:'When performing oral sex, put your tongue inside her vagina and move it around before taking it out, and licking upwards, kissing and gently sucking the clitoris as you go' He says: mirror mirrorHe says:'We've got a mirror in the wardrobe next to our bed, and I just love it when my girlfriend's on top with her back diagonally on to it. He says: try something differentHe says:'When I go down on my girlfriend she lies on her side with one foot flat on the bed and her knee bent, and I lick her side-on, rather than lengthways. He says: baby oilHe says:'My girlfriend and I cover ourselves in baby oil, then once I'm inside her she lies flat on top of me. From our partner She says: come on overShe says:'When my partner goes down on me I love him to do a "come here" signal very slowly with two fingers inside me, especially if he's gently licking my clit at the s She says: set the moodShe says:'Set the scene by dressing-up in sexy underwear, light candles and put on some soft background music. She says: preparationShe says:'My partner and I like it if, during foreplay, I masturbate him to the point of climax and then move straight on to sex. She says: frictionShe says:'I get great clitoral stimulation when my partner lies on top and slightly to the side so I have one leg up slightly and bent, and the other flat. From our partner She says: waxingShe says:Dare to go bare with a Brazilian wax. 'At first I felt a bit naked, but my boyfriend was so turned on that it made me feel sexier. She says: go exploringShe says:'Ban your hands! Explore each other's bodies with your nose, tongue, lips, hair, knees, toes - you'll be amazed at how sensational it feels.' And finallyAnd finally...Pick your favourite bits from this gallery and read out some of the suggestions to your partner. 1 / 66 Previous Next FROM OUR NETWORK JOIN THE CONVERSATION What's Popular 1Wendy was just 58 when she was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's. This is how doctors knew. 2CULT BUY: The celeb-approved, bold, matte lipstick you can apply on public transport. 3Some people laughed at the preacher in the royal wedding. This is why I cried. 4Prince Andrew's ex just compared her wedding dress to Meghan Markle's and she has a point. 5From the Clooneys to Oprah: How Meghan Markle and Prince Harry met their celebrity guests. FROM OUR NETWORK Want more from mamamia?