I believe in a lot of things, but one thing I don’t believe in is settling. Whether you are settling for a relationship that doesn’t meet your needs, a job that doesn’t light up your soul or a lifestyle that doesn’t inspire you, I believe you were meant for more.
Here are six reasons you’re settling for a lacklustre life, but more importantly what to do about it starting now.
1. Everyone’s doing it… right?
We’ve been taught that work isn’t supposed to be fun, that marriage is hard, and that life is about making the best of the cards you are dealt. Somehow we have created a society of settlers complaining about our lives and accepting that this is just how things are. Wearing stress and overwhelm as badges of honour we connect with other people just like us and we come to believe-this is life.
2. My life is OK. Who am I to want more?
Depending on how you were raised, you may think it’s selfish to want more than you have. You think that by having more money or wanting more happiness and joy in your life that you’re just being greedy. You may even believe that by having more for yourself, you are taking away from those who are worse off than you. You think to yourself: “I should just be happy with what I’ve got.”
3. You fear the unknown.
While your life may be a bit lackluster overall, you find comfort in the monotony. Reaching for bigger and better things that you truly desire could lead you to experiences that are far outside your comfort zone and it’s scary. Instead of feeling the fear and doing it anyway, you settle for less because it feels safe.
To give you a boost to reach out of your comfort zone, check out some of these motivational quotes (post continues after gallery).
4. You think it’s too late to change.
You’ve invested so much time and effort in this life, that you can’t fathom making a change this late in the game. How would you start? What would you lose? What if you fail? These questions float through your mind and instead of imagining the best possible outcome, you allow your fear to overpower your desire and you succumb to the realization that…this is it.
5. You’re bound by your current reality.
Every choice you make is based on your current reality and you are stuck in that story. In your mind there is no other way. You work, you pay bills, and you take care of your family, but there is no room for anything outside of that. What you see is what you get and you are stuck in a constant cycle of the same lackluster experiences day in and day out. Simply put, you’re stuck in a rut and can’t get out.