There’s no good way to find out the person that you love has been cheating on you.
But these stories from Reddit users and women in the Mamamia office are heart-wrenching. Think ‘about-to-buy-a-house-together-and-infected-with-an-STI’ type of heart-wrenching. Or finding out at a friend’s wedding? Or sitting next to her on a plane? Brutal.
Yep, things are about to get ugly. Prepare yourself:
A forgotten wallet
“I never do this but I forgot my wallet and realised just before I was about to grab some lunch,” says Kristy, 27. “I live close to work and a colleague had to pick something up and was kind enough to drive me home.” Kristy says she didn’t notice anything unusual when she walked in the front door because she was talking with her colleague. Then she went into her bedroom and her fiance was in the bed and she still didn’t think anything was wrong.
“I thought he must have come home sick. I started asking if he was okay.”
Then she saw a pair of women’s shoes on the floor and heard a noise in the ensuite. “It was like a scene in a low rent movie: I opened the ensuite door and there was a naked woman standing in my shower.”
“It was all terrible, made worse because my colleague was standing not far from me in the hallway listening to everything. I insisted we go back to work for some reason and cried and cried in the car. It didn’t take long for everyone to know. It was all so humiliating.”
“Was the night of her company Christmas party. I had to stay home and babysit our five year old son (Grandma was supposed to, but she fell and was in the hospital with a broken hip.) I figured my wife would go and then come home early,” wrote JimmyTheTemp.
“Turns out, she was planning to stay the night at a hotel so ‘she could drink and not worry about driving.’ I woke up about three am just knowing something was wrong (never happened before) and checked ‘Find My Phone’ to see where she was. She was with her boss at his apartment. Pretty much sucked.”
Watch: the moment people knew their relationship was over. Post continues after gallery.
The phone always gives the game away
It is the age of digital communication with text messages, photo messages, Snapchats, Facebook chats. It’s also the age of digital cheating. Here are the most heart wrenching stories of discovering a cheater though texts:
He was using my phone to call and text her, thought he was smart by deleting them, but when the bill came there it was in black and white. – Reddit profile has since been deleted
He left his Facebook open and I had that gut feeling to check his messages. – Kate, 27.
He thought I was sleeping, but I was watching him talk to people on a dating app. – James, 29.
My ex-fiancee had both an iPhone and a Macbook. If you know anything about iMessage, this means that he can send and receive texts from his laptop. I was using his laptop for homework (with his permission) while he was at work. He got a text message from his ex, who he talked with on a regular basis. I was uncomfortable with her since she was ‘the one that got away’, but she was married and he insisted he just thought of her as a good friend and I chose to believe and trust my then-fiancee. But the text she sent him that day seemed strange, just randomly saying ‘Just textin’ to say I love you’ or something like that, and it just popped up in the corner for me to read. Then I opened the messages. I found hours of sexting messages. Hours. He’d been sexting her that morning even, when I had slept next to him all night and we’d cuddled and kissed goodbye when he went to work. I wasn’t home when he returned. – Chetanzi via Reddit.