Meet Lucy Baxter and her 21 year old son Otto who has Downs Syndrome. Lucy wants her son to have a fully rounded life and enjoy the experience of having a partner and finding love. And sex. But Otto hasn’t managed to find someone to sleep with so his mother has made a rather unusual public So she is appealing for women to come forward so Otto can ‘enjoy the same experiences as other men his age’.
She’s even said she’ll pay for a prostitute.
According to a newspaper report:
Miss Baxter, 50, also hopes he may one day become a father – despite the controversy this may attract.
‘Society has a learning disability when it comes to Down’s syndrome,’ she said.
‘Why should these people be kept separate and pigeon-holed when
they have the same emotions, desires and feelings as so-called normal
‘If he doesn’t get a girlfriend, I will feel really bad,
because I have sold him this thing that he is like everybody else.
That’s why I’m working overtime to get this sorted for him.’
Miss Baxter from Abingdon, Oxfordshire, works for the mental
health charity Mencap and campaigns for the rights of those with Down’s
She is single and has never married but has three other adopted sons
– James, 27, Titus, 14, and Raphael, seven. They all have Down’s
syndrome. She has already helped James to set up a page on a social networking
website to invite potential partners to come forward for him.
‘I’d like all my boys to find love and enjoy sex,’ she said. ‘I would have no problem paying for Otto to go to Amsterdam to visit a brothel if that’s what he wanted. A few of his friends suggested it a few months ago and since then
I’ve talked to Otto about it in an adult way. Why shouldn’t he enjoy
the same experiences as other men?’
Otto is an aspiring actor who has appeared in local stage versions of Macbeth and The Canterbury Tales.
He persuaded his mother to help him find a partner after three years without success.
You know, at first I was a bit squeemish about this but on reflection, I think it is a wonderful loving thing she is doing for her son. The idea of people with disabilities -or even elderly people – having sex can be a confronting one but that doesn’t mean we should assume they’re not sexual beings, surely….