It’s the big question from an anonymous listener this week.

Our agony aunt, Ask Bossy, starts this one with a big…..long…..sigh……

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Here’s the thing.

Bossy says we’re led to believe by Hollywood that sex in relationships is essential, but it doesn’t have to be.

All relationships are different. And some relationships don’t have sexual components, and that’s okay.

The problems arise, she says, if one or both of the partners are unhappy with it.

Mia Freedman calls it the Sex Gap. It exists in every relationship. At one end of the Sex Gap is how much one person wants to have sex. And at the other end, is the other person.  It’s when the gap gets wide and gaping that it can pose a pants problem. But in this case, since both parties are in the same place, it’s okay.

“In this case, both of them are happy not having that sexual dynamic in the relationship.  If you’re both happy in your relationship, be happy. Continue and carry on like that. Just check in every now and then.”

How much sex are people really having? (post continues after video)

Bossy says even if you’re not getting your raunch on, it’s still important to have physical intimacy in a relationship. Hugs, kisses, little pats on the back, a stroke of the arm, all leads to better connection.

Mamamia Out Loud is like listening to your friends around the kitchen table. You can listen to the full episode in itunes or here:

What do you think? Can a sexless marriage exist, happily ever after?