If you Google “living together without getting married“, you’re just one click away from a whopping serve of religious guilt.
According to “Myths and Realities of Living Together Without Marriage“, the “realities” of living together before marriage are as follows: The divorce rate of women who cohabit before marriage is more than 80%.
Most men who cohabit with women are only doing it for “convenience”. Within a cohabiting relationship, a woman is more likely to pay her fair share of household expenses.
The “myths”, of course, are those that say you won’t be struck down by hellfire as you sleep in your unsanctimonious bed of sin. (FYI: you will).
According to the “evidence”, tying the knot before you buy any fancy knives together is the clear path forward.
These excellent arguments aside, however, I have one remaining question:
How?
How?
HOW?????
Top Comments
Why do so many of the commenters below assume that living together is only about the sex?
It's possible to have sex without living together. Even great sex. But if the first time you live together you discover massively different expectations of, for example, household cleanliness (and who is responsible for taking care of it) - that's nothing to do with sex.
Of course its got nothing to do with sex.
For me it was about taking one step at a time. Moving in together is taking a big step without having any sort of foundation.
I could never have dreamed of having a child without being married first. Some people are happy to do that but to me thats jumping in at the deep end with a relationship before its even established foundations.
I think if you do not know the difference between an experiment and marriage, you not ready period.