A bus stop, a wedding, a playground, a university lecture hall, a friend’s party, my own party, a shop floor, a Woolies.

These are the places I have been asked the question, “ but how do lesbiansactuallyhave sex?”

I used to reply with a deep breath, a searching look and a curt, “we just take turns holding hands.”

Because it is, inherently, a homophobic, shit thing to say to somebody that makes them feel like they need to validate their acts of intimacy using the heterosexual model as “standard.”

I’m now 25 andoverit.

Kill the haters with kindness (and laughter).

So we made a video to answer some of our most commonly asked questions. We could have been serious and spoken about why our sex is nobody's business but when we were growing up, "gay" and "sex" were only used in the contexts of arrests, deviancy and insults on the playground.

This video is for everybody butespeciallyfor the young gays whose newsfeeds are still filled with tragedy in the community.

It's light, it's fun and it's playing above.

Enjoy a cheeky look into the sex lives of two young and gay Australians and share your newfound knowledge wisely.

And remember: all sex is different and we are not the authorities on anything other than our own experience.