The kidnapping-in-Lebanon story is an extreme example of the consequences of email snooping.
When he learned his two children were taken by a group of men at a bus stop on the street, Ali al-Amin’s extreme panic was somewhat mitigated because he knew the mother of his children – Sally Faulkner – was likely behind it.
How did he know this? Because he had logged into her email account, without her permission, and read her emails.
The screen captures he took of Faulkner’s emails, which he had access to until December, showed Faulkner had planned to kidnap her children in Beirut, to bring them back to Australia. Amin’s records helped police identify the suspects involved.
“I had access to Sally’s emails so I knew the plan, but I didn’t think they would be that ballsy,” Amin said.
This is a case where the consequences of email snooping involved the safety of two children, and the exposure of potentially criminal activity.
It’s a little bit different to sussing out the true nature of your partner’s friendship with that work colleague.
But it does beg the question, when is email snooping okay? What are the potential consequences? And is it always worth it?
It starts with temptation...
You see your partner's phone open.
Just a look. They'll never know. It will put my mind at rest.
Then, just like that, you've entered the rabbit hole.
All of a sudden, you have at your disposal a smorgasbord of new information and you're overwhelmed (and a little feverish) by the volume of opportunity that is in front of you. I can know everything.
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If my partner wants to "snoop" in my email he's free to do so, same with my phone. I have nothing to hide
If you feel the need to snoop your partners emails, texts, etc., then there is deep trust issue on your part. There is a thing called communication, it is never OK to snoop, if you are concerned confront them, don't go behind their back.
I have passwords to my husbands phone and emails, because he volunteered them, he has mine, but neither of us feels the need to read each others messages, because we trust each other and we talk about everything.