It sucks being one of the only mums in my circle of friends.
Not only do they not understand why I can’t bring my toddler to a boutique beer garden but our areas of common interests are becoming less common. So when my close friend recently announced she was pregnant, I was happy for her and selfishly glad for me.
After attending a girls’ catch up to celebrate her news, the conversation touched on whether my friend would return to work. Needless to say I was surprised when two of my friends confessed they didn’t like part time working mothers – especially since I am one.
Even before kids, I’ve always viewed working mums positively. I worked with both full time and part time working mums and never experienced issues with the quantity or quality of their work.
And if I’m being completely honest, the balancing act of work and kids looked stressful and the reality certainly hasn’t disappointed.
You would think that working part time mums would have enough to worry about with work, childcare/school drop offs and running a household without having to face this attitude in the work place but it’s one that, after speaking to other working mums, is regularly faced.
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Quit working for others and start your own business. I work 4 hours a day and earn as much as I did when I worked full time as a senior manager.
I'm a full time working mother and I know how hard the juggle is between putting in your best at work and making it home in time to spend a couple of hours with your child before bedtime.
Having said that, I've also come across some women who just expect their colleagues to pick up the slack as soon as they have one child. I worked with a woman who would only work one day per week, and she dictated which day that was. This meant that she had to share work with everyone else in the department, which she had a tantrum about because she only wanted to share with ONE other person, not three. Meanwhile the other two of us weren't super keen on sharing either as it basically meant more work for us. We had to prepare everything for her since she only came in once a week, then she would come in, deliver it and swan off home again. And yet both of us just sucked it up as we were expected to, both being single and child-free at the time. I was even chastised by this woman for 'working too hard' and thereby raising expectations for the department she couldn't be expected to meet because she had a family. She also told me I would understand if I ever became a mother.
Several years later, I am now a mother, I'm running my department and I'm not expecting other people to do my work for me or to lower their standards to make me feel better in case I do a sloppy job.
I'm not going to pretend it's easy - it's not! There should definitely be provisions for working parents - carer's leave being one of them. Workplaces should provide flexible working arrangements that allow both male and female parents to do their best work. But workers also need to hold up their end of the bargain. Working parents should not expect that as soon as they pop out kids they get a free pass to leave most of the hard work to others. It only creates resentment and less inclination from colleagues and employers to support them in juggling their responsibilities.