And I’m fine with it.
There is someone in the world that my three-year-old thinks is more fun than me.
Someone my five-year-old would rather play with than his Dad.
Someone my seven-year-old wakes up just to tell extremely-important-kid-stuff to. Stuff grown-ups just wouldn’t get (and frankly aren’t really interested in).
Two people in fact.
My three kids can’t get enough of each other.
Oh sure they fight and bicker and pinch and push. They cry over he-took-my-toy and she-touched-my-dinner and why-don’t-I-ever-get-to-go-first?
But there is no one they would rather fight with, and no one they would rather have around.
It is the most important relationship they have.
It will be the most enduring and hopefully one of the most meaningful.
My youngest can’t wait till her big brothers get home from school. My oldest - who is always the first to wake - begs me to let him wake up the others so the fun can begin.
Before any parents of singletons start to swear and hiss, take a step back. I am not damning your choices, nor thinking your child is missing out. In some ways I think parenting an only child must be the most difficult of all, and I know your child gets the same amount of stimulation, love, attention and opportunities as any other.
While parts of this post may not be for you, I am certainly not saying that kids with siblings are better off. What I am talking about is my experience and that of my kids because this is what they have – a relationship unlike any other in their lives.
Four reasons your siblings are more important than anyone else.
1. No one else knows you unconditionally.
Sure your parents love you unconditionally, but your brothers and sisters are the ones who know you AND love you unconditionally.
They have been there not just through thick and thin but they were there when things began.