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When was the last time you had sex so good, you didn’t stop grinning at each other for days? OK, how about reasonably good sex that left you with a rather smug post-coital glow? Hmm.
Then how many of you fantasise more about sleeping in your bed than bouncing around on it? Stressful jobs, fractious relationships, parenting, that monotonous commute – all combines to rob us of desire.
If sex is just another chore rather than something you look forward to, chances are one or more of the following is to blame. Pinpoint the problem, then keep reading for some practical solutions.
Reasons why you’re not frothing at the mouth
– A bad lover: zero technique eventually leads to zero desire
– Exhaustion and stress
– Poor general health or chronic illness
– Excessive alcohol or drug abuse
– A reaction to medication/recreational drugs
– Low hormone levels
– Menopause, periods and pregnancy all alter our levels of desire
– Pelvic surgery (like hysterectomy) which has deadened nerve endings in the genital region
– No chemistry with partner.
- Relationships problems: feeling frustrated, angry or resentful toward partner or guilty, sad or ashamed over something you’ve done to them.