It broke my heart to hear that a 13-year-old Sydney girl, Maddy Milne, committed suicide a few weeks ago as a result of bullying.
Maddy was a year 8 student who loved drawing dragons, skiing, sailing and snorkelling. But she became withdrawn and anxious earlier this year after being bullied by her classmates.
Her devastated father, Peter Milne, told news.com.au: "I would say to parents that if they see anxiety there in their kids, then work it through with them. We all let our busy lives get in the way. The school was busy and didn't get back to us, we were busy. I'd just say make the time.''
Why are little girls so mean to each other? My daughters are only nine and seven, but we've already felt the sting of playground politics in my home.
When my eldest was seven, she came home from school smiling brightly. But when I asked about her day, she burst into tears. At lunchtime, her best friend had told her she picks a new best friend every year, so see ya later. Holding her in my arms as she sobbed, I felt so powerless. I wished I could protect her from the slings and arrows of the playground, but I knew I had to fight her own battles.
What I didn't expect was the little girl who spurned my daughter to block her attempts to make new friends. She made up ugly stories and told my daughter's classmates not to play with her because she was "evil". I contemplated going to the school about it, but I didn't want to "make a fuss".
Eventually, almost a year later, my daughter made a new friend. But many lonely lunchtimes in the library proceeded it.
I breathed the most enormous sigh of relief. Then, earlier this year, a boy in her year started threatening her. He kicked a tower of chairs at her on day, said he'd "hurt" and "punch" her on numerous occasions. This time I didn't hesitate to approach the school. Within hours they acted. The boy was hauled before the deputy principal and made to apologise, both in person and via a letter.