Should mums go to the hen's night?

To be honest, I didn’t even know this was a debate – I thought it was a given – of course your mum would come to your hen’s night.

But not so. Not always.

Apparently, bringing your mum along to the penis themed festivities is not okay to some people. Not everyone wants to see a lubed up torso lap dancing on aunty May or mother dearest drinking out of a penis shaped straw.

As one woman put it, “you can’t unsee what’s been seen”.

But what’s so awful about seeing your mum suck on a penis straw or eat a penis chocolate or do a funny dare while waving a pink sash around her waist that screams ‘mother of the bride’?

According to a lot of women, there’s a lot wrong with it.

My good friend (and soon to be mum) Avi Vince says, “Mums and MILs shouldn’t go to the stripper/party segment (I feel the same about dads and DILs at the bucks). It blurs the line between being a mother and best friend which I feel very strongly about. I think mums and MILs who want to go to that are going more to re-live their hen’s night (which might have been far more tame depending on when they got married). My mum and MIL came to the late lunch part of my Hen’s – and we played rude games etc. But they went home when we went to the city to go drinking and partying in disgusting clubs (I didn’t do the stripper thing).”

An interesting notion – blurring the line between mother and best friend. Maybe that’s where my idea differs. To me, my mum is a friend (corny, I know) but she’s on par with all my gal pals, so I couldn’t imagine not having her there. Sure, she probably won’t last past 11pm, but not because she’s not welcome, because that’s way past her bedtime.

Another friend of mine totally disagreed with my view saying, “NOPE. Get outta there. #banmums”

Another agreed wholeheartedly with Avi. She said, “My brother’s fiancée’s hen’s is like – a luncheon for the mums and grandma, then peens and strippers for us.”

It seems that not too many people agree with my idea that mums, MILs, aunties (even a groovin grandma if you have one) are welcome to every part of the hen’s day/night. It’ll be one of the most memorable days of your life probably and so it seems only right to have the people you hold nearest and dearest to you there – penis games and all.

"My mum came to both of my sister's and all of my cousin's hens. A stripper also once straddled my aunty, you can't unsee that sh*t," a friend of mine piped in. Admitting she doesn't want her mum at hers when she gets married.

I had one friend. One measly friend say, "mums all the way".

It seems to boil down to what type of relationship you have with your mum. And what type of person both you and your mum are.

I haven't found the answer yet. I think all female family members should be at your hen's celebrations. But I understand not everyone's like that. Do you leave the old chooks in the chook shed?

What do you think? Mums/MILs at hen's parties or no?