I’m not a mum yet. But when I am one, these are the promises I won’t break.
As I watch my friends and family have kids, and I inch towards the baby-making time of my own life, like everyone before me, I make mental notes of what kind of parent I want to be.
I also know that I am sure that all my promises to my future children will be sucked from my brain as pregnancy-brain sets in and then parent-fog (due to lack of sleep) takes its hold.
So, to remind my future mum-self, I have written a list of my promises to my future child, and here they are:
– I promise to take care of myself, too. Not because I want to look like a yummy-mummy (that would be nice, though), but because I know that if I look after myself I will be a better mum to you.
– I promise to teach you how to express yourself as soon as possible, so you don’t feel the need to fall in a heap every time you feel I am not listening to you.
– I promise to always find patience, even at 2 in the morning.
– I promise I won’t pretend to be smarter than I actually am. If I don’t know the answer, instead of making up something, I will help you find the answer.
– I promise not to teach you that family is the most important. I know that family is just one of your important social circles and so I will teach you that those (friends and one-day colleagues) are just as important. And I will be interested in your friends.
- I promise not to expect you to get along with your sibling(s) all of the time – and I promise not to compare you to them.