My son kisses me.
Which is a relief, since one of my fears about having a boy was that he wouldn’t be affectionate. But when he was just a year old, he crawled to get a book, brought it to me and sat down in my crossed legs.
But this is not normal father-son kissing. It’s not a tight-lipped cheek peck of thanks for playing with his Thomas & Friends train set with him.
The first time it happened – a few months ago, right after he turned two – I figured it was an accident. He doesn’t have great control of his motor skills. He runs like he’s being pushed and throws a ball by dropping it in front of him. So when he went to kiss my mouth and wound up licking my soft palate, I figured the guy just didn’t have lip smacking down yet.
By the fifth time, I knew this was not an accident. Though he mixes up his style, this is how it usually goes down: We’ll be talking, usually about cars or trains, and he’ll put his face close to mine, somewhat menacingly. Which puts me off guard. Allowing him to do what he wants. He puts his hands on both sides of my face and pulls me until our mouths touch. He smushes his mouth hard against mine and then starts to lick my lips. A few times, he bit my lips gently. Then he pushes me away.
None of the baby books tell me how to do deal with this. Do I kiss him back? It seems weird and a little gross, not just because he’s my son but because he’s got the grooming habits of a homeless man. There’s food on his face. He doesn’t wash his hands a lot. He often smells of urine.
No one has told me how to feel about this ether. I’m sort of freaked out, sort of disgusted and sort of thrilled. I mean, I must be a pretty good dad for my son to like me this much. He clearly wants to get super close to me. Again, I’m sort of freaked out.
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LMAO this is almost my son to a tea! He's 14 months & since he was about 12 months old I was trying to teach him to kiss. A gentle little "peck" which he'd do in front of you then about a week later he decided open mouth licks were the way to go. The first time I was really awkward because I wasn't expecting it. Sometimes you see it coming because he'll lean in open mouth tongue out & you "brace for it" other times he'll lean in with a cute small pucker up face & it's a perfect lil peck with his eyes closed. Then there's the times he catches you off guard, leans in with his lil pucker face & somewhere between the so close you can't see & connection out comes the tongue & open pops the mouth & slobber away. Lmao it always makes me laugh, which I think may have upset him a little because he's cut back on the kisses now, although I constantly kiss his cheek & forehead & nose. Maybe I should just try to be a little less awkward, as someone said above it's all completely innocent & it's us grown ups reading too far into it. Have fun with your sloppy slobber kisses mummas & dadas, it won't be long before they don't wanna kiss you at all any more, then we'll be longing for the slobbers back! X <--- big wet kiss to you all ;)
My almost 7 yr old boy spoons me when he comes into my bed for a cuddle I just love it.