In wake of the #metoo movement, I’d like to lay down some ground rules and advice on interacting with women. Think of this as a little present in the form of a road-map made especially for you, crafted by your very own friendly neighbourhood feminist.
Listen up, because it turns out that rapists aren’t a big hit with the ladies.
1. Do not touch me.
Do not touch me, for any reason unless you have my explicit, vocalised permission to do so (medical professionals etc). If you touch me, I will interpret this as a sexual advance. There is no reason why you would ever need to touch a woman you encounter or work with in your day-to-day life. If you are CPR-trained, you legally have the assumed-consent of an unconscious person to perform this procedure on them.
Otherwise, do not touch my hair, arm, face, butt, shoulders, neck, breasts, or hips. If you are a close friend or family member, this does not necessarily mean I want to be hugged or kissed by you. If you are unsure, it is best to wait until I initiate this. If I don’t initiate, keep your distance. If you do not want to be touched, I will grant you this same respect.
2. Don’t assume.
If I consent to be your girlfriend, this does not mean I have consented to you owning me or my body. If I want to go on a date with you, that does not mean I want to kiss you. If I want to kiss you, that does not mean I want your dirty fingers pushing their way inside me when I’m not even wet (ugh), and so forth.