We love a good wedding. Sure there’s is the financial outlay of hen’s nights, kitchen teas, showers, wedding presents, sometimes accomodation, and (potentially) awful bridesmaid dresses. But in return you get a celebration where it’s socially acceptable to dance barefoot to the Macarena with a slab of cake in one hand and glass of champagne in the other.
Oh, and watching two of your favourite people publicly declare their love for each other isn’t bad either.
But weddings are not minefield-free events; no, no, no. And we’re not talking about navigating your way around the Groom’s dodgy uncle Bill, but more specifically What to Wear.
Deciphering a modern wedding dress code (Lounge suit, what the ..?) is right up there with figuring out the correct way to open a can of Milo. H-A-R-D.
Can you wear black? What about white? Does a garden wedding mean it’d be lame to wear florals? Or encouraged? And what exactly does dressing Cocktail style even mean?
Watch the Mamamia team reveal what their biggest ‘wedding regrets’ are (post continues after video).
We spoke to Julie Lamberg-Burnet of The Sydney School of Protocol about the dos and dont’s of modern wedding etiquette.
And we weren’t expecting this curveball: It’s now perfectly acceptable to wear white to a wedding. Yes, WHITE.
“Generations ago, women were cautioned against wearing white so they wouldn’t ‘out do’ the bride. But wearing white now, in no way detracts from the bride,” says Lamberg-Burnet.
(Unless you know, it’s a plunging floor-length gown and the guest also happens to have a veil.)
“Today, not all brides wear white.” If you’re not sure about donning the traditional shade on someone else’s big day, Lamberg-Burnet says “if in doubt, you should always ask the bride”.
Her advice is to pay attention to the wedding invitation and theme for the best guide to its formality or informality. Many couples invest time and money into choosing a style, and will appreciate it if you dress accordingly.