The words ‘I do’ mean nothing legally and other secrets that a wedding celebrant thinks you should know (or at least I’m dishing his secrets out).
I spoke to wedding celebrant, Joshua Withers and asked him to tell me everything we don’t know about weddings.
He told me that no wedding was normal or weird – it all depended on the person and their needs. But he did spill on some things that we don’t realise happen in a wedding ceremony (behind the scenes). He also told me about certain traditions that he believes to be outdated.
The most interesting thing he told me (that he was slightly worried about saying) is that the worst wedding guests are mothers.
“Mothers of the bride, mothers of the groom... They’re the worst because they have this belief of what a wedding should look like. And secondly, it's because they didn’t have their perfect wedding and they want their son or daughter to have the perfect wedding – and that’s such a stress to put someone under," he told The Motherish.
"I love them, god bless them – because there are heaps of amazing mothers of the bride and mothers of the groom, he says, but they're the worst guests."
The Gold Coast based celebrant also tells me that grooms definitely cry far more than brides.
“You know why? As big and strong and bold as we all are, us boys are still blown away by the fact that this girl really wants to hang out with us for the rest of our lives…Like we don’t want to hang out with us – so what are you – it’s kinda weird," he says.
And although the men get happy tears at the thought of spending the rest of their lives with someone - most of the couples Withers marries have already been together for five to 10 years.
"And they have probably done the no clothes dance already," he says.
Withers believes that this changes the whole idea of marriage. He believes that the most archaic part of a wedding ceremony (and his least favourite part) is the father walking the bride down the aisle and handing her over.