There I am at the park, checking my phone. I’m in the car, checking my phone. I’m even hiding out in their bedrooms on days where I feel I’ve had it, you guessed it, checking my phone.
Being a stay at home/work from home mum all day with your kids has the ability to make you feel out of touch, lonely and sometimes really isolated and for a mum feeling this way there are few things available that provide the instant escapism that social media does.
But what happens when social media starts competing with your parenting?
Of course it’s not how I wanted to live but gradually, that’s exactly what happened.
Now I work in media, obviously, so it’s important that I am connected to the social media channels but my obsession with all things ‘book and ‘gram really hit home when I took a good look at just how much time I’m spending immersed in other’s people’s lives instead of my children’s.
It’s so bad I’ll admit that my friends would joke that my phone is ‘my lifeline’ or my fourth child. And sadly, they’re right.
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The first thing my eyes do in the morning is adjust to daylight and check in to see if something interesting has happened on Facebook while I’ve been asleep. Our sleeping positions speak volumes, my daughter is still in a cot beside my bad and between us, my phone.
Why do I care what other people have been up to? The first thing my eyes should see in the morning is my husband and my babies because together, they are far more beautiful than any filter.
When I feed my daughter I’m automatically reaching for my phone to keep me entertained. I hate myself for this because I know that our breastfeeding relationship won’t last forever and I will look back in sadness at the times I should have been stroking her hair, singing to her instead of cruising Instagram shops.