Last seen; 02:40am… wait, what?
Why? When he said he would be home? When he wasn’t going out? When you know he didn’t have plans?
Ah, maybe it’s a one-off. He probably couldn’t sleep. But you can’t escape it. You’re now checking his WhatsApp on every occasion…
Why is he spending so much time online?
Why is he always online in the middle of the night?
Why has he ‘read’ your message but not replied (and you know he’s ample time to reply, because he’s spending so much time online)?
Before online messaging, we had very little choice but to believe our partners when they would tell us their plans, or their intentions. Now, we have things like ‘read’ receipts, time stamps, Facebook check-ins, photo tagging (the list goes on) to monitor their whereabouts and networking habits.
In fact today, it’s more incredible if we don’t know what our significant other is doing from moment to moment – between instant messaging, post updates from work to home, Spotify channels, Tweets, Grams, Snap Chats, etc. That’s why an unexplained 2am time-stamp is so suspicious. If they were out, you’d know about it. If they were with friends, you’d know about it. If they had any legitimate reason for checking their phone in the middle of the night (insomnia aside), you’d likely know about it.
WhatsApp in particular has a lot to answer for.
In 2014, Gian Ettore Gassani, the president of the Italian Association of Matrimonial Lawyers, said 40% of divorce cases involving adultery in Italy relied on the WhatsApp messages sent between unfaithful spouses and their lovers as evidence of infidelity.