by NINA MAY
I turned 40 recently.
It’s a milestone, no doubt, a time of reflection. And when I read Chris Urquhart’s piece on turning 30, it made me think back to that time a decade ago – and of what’s happened since.
Like Chris, I too thought that by the time I’d hit 30, I’d be a homeowner, married and a parent. I remember thinking that the year 2000 would be a great one to start having kids. I’d be 28 years old then and, hey, it seemed a good a time as any.
The reality I didn’t even meet my husband until I was 31. I married at 33, and had baby no 1 at 35. Baby number two came last year, at age 38.
I’m pretty sure that when I was a teenager I never thought I’d be changing nappies at 40.
I’ve had a great career (22 years since I started, I still love working in the media) and I want to do more. I’ve travelled to some terrific places but feel there’s so much left to see. I’ve met some amazing people. And, best of all, experienced the great joy of watching my two babies gurgle and grow.
I agree with Chris’ simple philosophies on life – live, love, laugh, learn. Live in the moment. Love what you have. Laugh with family and friends. Learn from mistakes.
But there are also two other L’s that have been especially important to me as I‘ve moved from my 30s into my 40s.
Loyalty. The older I’ve become, the more I’ve relished my core group of friends and family. I’ve a close-knit circle of girlfriends, who are like my sisters. We know each other’s secrets, trust each other implicitly, and have a bond Superman couldn’t break.
One of my closest friends said recently I was like a vault, and that’s a badge I wear with honour.
Liabilities. And by that, I mean getting rid of them. In my 30s, I learned to focus on the positives and not be drained by the negatives, re-balance my life to juggle career and raising a family, and go easy on myself.