I’ve been in long-term relationships without a break since I was 16. I’m now almost 27 and am finally starting to understand the awesome side of being single.
I feel like it’s a secret that I was never privy to: when you finally get over the loneliness and hyperbolic despair that comes after a break-up, you realise that total autonomy in what you do every single day is AMAZING. And I look forward to the incredible relationship I have with myself blossoming more and more as time goes by.
Just like there are some crappy parts to being in a relationship (the doona is there to be shared. SHARED!), there are definitely some downsides to the perfect partnership I currently find myself in.
Society just doesn’t make it easy for a single gal. Or guy. For singles in general, really, things tend to be a little unfair. And the further I get into my amazing new relationship with this incredibly talented and beautiful young lady (Thanks Rosie! You’re welcome, Rosie! I love you. Aw thanks, I love you too), the more I realise that the world is totally skewed against single people.
1. It costs more. A lot more:
A recent article in The Atlantic Monthly calculated that a single woman (in the US), over the course of her lifetime, could end up paying an extra $1,002,096 than her coupled-up counterparts. ONE. MILLION. DOLLARS. Granted, that’s only if you stay single for life (which, although I’m loving myself sick right now, I don’t really plan to do), and it’s based on a US model. But while there are no similar Australian statistics currently floating around, the numbers could certainly be considered comparable, particularly when it comes to insurance and housing. Speaking of which…
2. Finding somewhere to live is a nightmare.
You’re an independent, intelligent and brilliant woman, who just wants to find a room of her own! Is it too much to ask to find an affordable place to live (to rent or buy) that’s just for one person? Apparently it is. The high pricing of studio or one-bedroom apartments makes it almost impossible for singles to find somewhere without a partner. And even without the high price, we’ve got another big problem: single rental bias. An article in online journal Science of Relationships highlighted one infuriating experiment: