Did you know that 10% of all Australians will suffer from anxiety disorder at some time during their life? That is one person out of every ten. Next time you see a group of more than ten people, think of that statistic. I do. Why? It stops me feeling so alone. When I was in the grip of my anxiety disorder I felt incredibly alone. No one understood. I couldn’t explain it. I was too ashamed and embarrassed. I thought I was the only person who felt this way. I always found ways to avoid situations. Looking back, I’m sure I behaved quite manically at times … bordering on OCD. I had rituals to avoid getting caught out. I only sat in certain places. I always travelled alone. I never travelled on buses or trains. I was always excusing myself in meetings. I always appeared very busy, rushing here, rushing there. In reality I was like a hamster on a spinning wheel; the spinning wheel of anxiety.
My anxiety was different. I didn’t suffer the usual tightness in the chest, shortness of breath, feeling of impending heart attack or even death. My anxiety manifested itself as diarrhoea. My hands would sweat, my body would tingle, then the entire contents of my stomach and intestines would literally melt and I would need to find a toilet stat. There was no waiting, or holding on. It was immediate and there was no stopping it.
The first time it happened, it was frightening, but I managed to jump out of the car (relax – I was a passenger) and get to a bathroom. It left me feeling a bit shaken, but I put it down to something I’d eaten. No biggie.
The very next week, on the very same road, the very same thing happened. This time I tried to fight it with my mind. It wasn’t cooperating. We drove quickly to the house of a nearby friend and thankfully they were home and crisis was averted. This time I was shaken and unsettled. My mind grabbed hold of the situation and wouldn’t let it go. By the time we had to make the same journey the next day, a new way of life had begun for me. I was on the anxiety roundabout and it seemed there was no way off.
As weeks turned into months, I became more and more lost to anxiety. My every waking thought was spent worrying about when my next attack would happen. Invariably my mind would bring on an attack. Anxiety is very powerful like that. When people say “it’s mind over matter” they are right. Except when you suffer from anxiety disorder and are in the midst of all it throws at you, try as you will, you have no power over your mind. Anxiety has all the power.
My family did not understand … I was continually told that it was all in my mind and to pull myself together. “You have a great life, a husband, two children, a nice home, what more could you want?”
It wasn’t about wanting more or wanting less. It was out of my control. My anxiety had finally become me. I was no longer the one driving.
One Friday the unthinkable happened. I was on my way to work and I didn’t make the bathroom on time. It was all kinds of awful. When I think back now, while the actual physical event was gross, it wasn’t life threatening nor was it witnessed by anyone. However the mental anguish that came with this event was debilitating. Finally the “worst thing that could happen” happened. All the books I had read always said, “What is the worst thing that could happen when you have a panic attack?” It was always “embarrassment”. It was never “death”. In my mind I believed that my “worst thing” was much worse than thinking you were going to have a heart attack. At least people would help you. Crapping in your pants is not pretty and I can guarantee you won’t have a crowd rushing to help.
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I think anti-depressant medication is fantastic. I know such wonderful, functional people who would be in a bad way without it and I don't think anyone treating their anxiety/depression should feel like a failure.
I also think nervous poohs are very common! Not to the extreme degree that you were unlucky enough to experience, but me and most of my friends will avoid eating before something nerve-wracking, as it just increases the likelihood of having to sit through miserable diarrhea at the most inconvenient times.
I have this - ie heart attack feeling at night, sometimes too scared to sleep fearing that I might die in my sleep and so on. Roots in my bulimia with heart problems being part of the package with bulimia. I no longer have this ED but still struggling with low self confidence in my body, looks etc.
I definitely have depression and bipolar (since primary school) but haven't gone to a doctor yet even 14 years later to be diagnosed, prescribed treatment etc. Just came to accept it's who and what I am. Scared of going on mood stabilisers because of its side effects, having to make a decision that will affect me for the rest of my life, the cost and also because I wouldn't know what is the 'real me' if I introduce foreign chemistry to my brain.