Now, at my place, the kids have taken over. There’s been a silent coup while our attention was elsewhere. My husband automatically gives our littlest a chicken leg he would love to gnaw himself, and no one thinks twice about screaming their head off at dawn because the dog is mauling a zhu zhu pet, thus denying me a little extra sleep.
I have fallen into a generational black hole, and I will never in my life be top dog. My parents ordered me around for the first half of my life and now it’s my kids’ turn and I don’t know how it happened.
Luckily, Victoria’s most senior policeman has some answers. He suggests it’s because parenting is a lost art and we should harden up and start throwing the ‘N’ word about a bit. That word would be, ‘No.’
Amelia Harris and Elissa Dohert report in The Herald Sun
In a parenting call to arms, Chief Commissioner Simon Overland said he didn’t believe they set enough boundaries.
“I think parenting, in some ways, has become a bit of a lost skill,” Mr Overland said.
“Parenting actually means sometimes saying no. Parenting means putting boundaries in place and actually enforcing those boundaries because that’s what young people need.”
Parents should stop trying to be their kids’ friends and dish out the discipline.
Dish out the discipline? I wonder what that means? Is it, ‘No, you may not have an iPhone 4,’ or is it a sound thrashing?
My kids would be shocked by either. Our brand of discipline sits somewhere in the middle. We try not to spoil, but we aren’t fans of smacking either. We muddle along and so far, so good. No one’s in reform school yet.
But I do worry that we worry too much about our kids’ happiness. That always putting theirs before ours isn’t going to end well. For them or us.
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Saying no to your child is the best thing you can do. I rejoice that this "concept" is back in the spotlight. My husband and I have no problem with this, but our girls are also very loved.
From my professional perspective as a teacher, it's clear, when looking at student behaviour which students' parents say "no" and have clear boundaries at home. I would confidently say that the parents who don't say "no" still live their children just as much, but their lack of boundaries result in children who think that not all rules apply to them. In fact, some parents will defend their children's clear disregard for rules and respectful behaviour to the hilt.
This, I think, is the point, that by the time it becomes truly serious, it's far too late to repair the behaviour and attitudes.
I feel that more and more, society is celebrating the individual as opposed to community and this is reflected in parenting and also in the some alternative approaches to pedagogy (Steiner, Montessori, home schooling).
There was a great episode on Insight recently (http://news.sbs.com.au/insi...
People are becoming increasingly self-oriented and thus so are young people.