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The iVillage confession: I am having an affair with my boss

Welcome to a new series of posts on iVillage. We've had a couple of emails from people that needed somewhere to go, just to talk  – just to tell their stories and so we have decided to give them a home. Anonymously of course. Today's confession is from a married mum of two:

My husband and I have been married for 10 years and we have 2 beautiful children but lately it seems that there is something missing. Maybe it is because we are just so familiar with each other I know what he's going to do or say before he even does it so there is no sense of anticipation or intrigue. Maybe it is the stress of life together as an old married couple. It's not that I don't love him any more it's just that I am not excited by him.

A while ago my boss started making passes at me during meetings when it was just the two of us there. As much as I thought it was the wrong thing to do I really enjoyed the attention. Then we started having lunches together and work wasn't even mentioned. He listened to me and he seemed like he really cared about what I said. I was very excited when the time for our annual conference came because I was enjoying spending time with him. It was at the conference that we took it to the next step and started sleeping together.

He is also married (but he has no kids).  I know that it is wrong but I love the attention. I love the sex and I think I am in love with him. I am too scared to tell my friends and there is no way I can  tell anyone in my family. I know I am wrong and I don't want to be judged but I just had to tell someone. It's so hard to live with this secret

Do you have a confession that you want to get off your chest – send it anonymously to villagepeople@themotherish.com and we will publish it for you.

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