The Duggars share their 5 rules for relationships.

Jessa Duggar is now engaged and thanks these family rules.

When your part of a massive family like the Duggars, relationships can take a lot of work. Now the family have revealed their top 5 relationship rules that they live and breathe by.

Jessa Duggar, the 3rd child of Bob and Michelle Duggar, followed her family’s advice on how to find the perfect mate and, for her, it worked. She got engaged to Ben Seewald on Thursday.

Rule 1. Set Boundaries

“Dating with a purposeful mind-set is really such a contrast from what we are used to seeing in our world,” the family mum, Michelle, told People. “Emotions get heated the closer you get. You’re like two magnets being pulled together. You need boundaries. What is so great is to set boundaries together at the beginning of a relationship and tell others, so it sets up accountability” she went on to say.

Rule 2. Court, Don’t Date

The Duggars don’t “date,” they “court,” says to Josh, 26, who has been married to his wife Anna for 6 years. “Dating means you’re shopping around. A courtship is the path toward marriage” he said.

For dad Bob, “Courting is getting to know each other in a group setting, both families spending time together and the couple setting goals together to determine if they are meant to marry. With dating, a couple will often pair off alone and that sometimes leads to a more physical relationship.”

“We want to get acquainted with a young man in a normal family setting, where we’ll be watching how he treats our brothers and sisters,” the Duggars write in their new book. “We want to see how he reacts to normal family events, such as Josie accidentally spilling her milk in his lap, Jackson unintentionally ruining his board game or Joseph trouncing him in a basketball match.”

Rule 3. Save the Physical Relationship for Marriage

Jill, 23, who married Derick Dillard in June, was happy to wait for her first kiss until married. “We want to save the physical side of our relationship for our wedding day and not go further than we should. If you are kissing, it gets more intimate. Obviously, you can kiss and not have sex. It’s about setting a higher standard so you don’t struggle [with temptation]” Jill explains.

Rule 4. Ask (Lots of) Questions

Before Derick and Jill began their courtship, she wrote a three-page list of questions for him, including no-nonsense queries about his faith, how many kids he wanted, and his drinking and smoking habits. “It was an interrogation,” Jill said of their five-hour Skype conversation. “I didn’t want to not have the guts to ask the tough questions.”

Rule 5. Have a Weekly Date

And as for their own relationship, Bob says he and Michelle have a weekly date. “We will go out to lunch or dinner and talk together about the kids, upcoming events, what we have coming up. It is easy to think of the things that are bothering you more often than the things that are wonderful. It’s important to remember those things about your spouse and think about those things. A great rule of thumb is to say 10 nice things to every one critical thing” Bob says.

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