The important lesson we learned from Taylor Swift this week.

Finally, something good has come out of this “feud”.

Taylor Swift has taught us many things: Namely, that haters gonna hate. That it’s okay to be corny sometimes. That’s it’s fine to look goofy when you dance.

But her lesson this week may be one of her most important: She showed it was okay to change your mind — and to apologise, sincerely, for getting things wrong.

Taylor Swift: Teacher of  actually important life lessons.
Swift found herself embroiled in a Twitter exchange last week with Nicki Minaj over the announcement of the MTV Video Music Awards.

It all started when rap superstar Minaj, 32, tweeted her annoyance her Anaconda video wasn’t nominated for MTV Video of the Year– writing: “When the ‘other’ girls drop a video that breaks records and impacts culture they get that nomination.

She also added that the awards seemed to go to videos celebrating slim bodies only.

Swift, taking the tweet as a personal attack on her Bad Blood video (rather than a wider comment on the VMAs or cultural implications of recognising artists), fired back: “It’s unlike you to put women against each other. Maybe one of the men took your slot.”

Minaj went on to deny any of the tweets were about Taylor Swift (other nominees in the Video of the Year were: Beyonce for 7/11, Ed Sheeran for Thinking Out Loud, Mark Ronson and Bruno Mars for Uptown Funk and Kendrick Lamar for Alright.)

“Huh? U must not be reading my tweets,” Minaj wrote. “Didn’t say a word about u. I love u just as much. But u should speak on this. @TaylorSwift13.”

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Minaj pointed out that her video was culturally important, and that if she were “a different ‘kind’ of artist” she definitely would have been nominated for VOTY and Best Choreography too.

“U couldn’t go on social media w/o seeing ppl doing the cover art, choreo, outfits for Halloween…an impact like that & no VOTY nomination?” she tweeted, going on to say reports of the supposed ‘catfight’ were just an example of white media trying to be divisive.

“Nothing I said had to do with Taylor,” she wrote. “So what jabs? White media and their tactics. So sad. That’s what they want.”

Nicki Minaj in her Anaconda video.

Then today, Swift realised that she had been off-base with her response — and she expressed it so sincerely and graciously.

“I thought I was being called out,” she wrote. “I missed the point, I misunderstood, then misspoke. I’m sorry, Nicki.”


Now that’s how you do an apology.

Heartfelt, with no hint of a rambling, defensive explanation. No ‘sorry, not sorry’. No, I’m ‘sorry that YOU didn’t get what I was saying’.

She owned that she’d misunderstood, and she actually said the words “I’m sorry” (it’s amazing how many celebrity “apologies” skate around those two vital words.)

Some celebrity ‘non-apologies (post continues after gallery):

Minaj responded: “That means so much Taylor, thank you.”

Friends again: Taylor Swift and Nicki Minaj.

She went on to tweet that Swift had gained “so much more respect” after her contrite, honest response — and concluded: “Let’s move on.”

Apology, officially nailed.

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