By DANIEL STERN
Despite your delusions to the contrary, swingers, by and large, are a civilized lot. A hodgepodge of ages, shapes, sizes, nationalities, ethnicities, beliefs, opinions, IQs, and senses of humor.
We have families, friends, careers, hobbies, mortgages, and retirement plans. In short, we’re just like everyone else.
We don’t strap on leather chaps and nipple clamps to go about our day. Wearing kinks on our sleeves like badges of honor is not our style.
Truth be told, we don’t talk that much about our dalliances— at least not to Vanilla folk. We’re not ashamed. We simply assume most of the world doesn’t get our way of life. And more times than not we’re right.
Though we’re like everyone else, our views on sex are admittedly not the norm. To us sex is just another social activity, often involving refreshments and social etiquette. Also unique is the distinction we make between sex and love.
For us, sex is physical and temporary; love emotional and eternal. For many couples, love is the bond that permits Lifestyle participation.
And, for some, vice versa.
Now, for all its accepting nature, the Lifestyle considers single men interlopers at best. Clubs and house parties prohibit single male attendance or, at best, tolerate it on specific nights.
Couples and females block men from emailing or even viewing their profiles. Solo males are ignored, shrugged off, considered the incurable problem children of the Lifestyle. Men, if you can’t tolerate this reality, stick to whatever online dating site into which you’ve already invested however many years and spent however much in the way of subscription fees. Odds are the smattering of one-off coffee speed-dates you’ve obtained is far more success than you’ll have in the Lifestyle. And, before you think otherwise, yes, the odds do absolutely apply to you.
Top Comments
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