She’s on it with Orlando and it’s clearly awkward for her.
Wedding Watch is that excruciating zone you enter after dating someone for a year or so. The relationship seems serious. You’re happy.
That’s when friends, family and strangers (or, if you’re famous, the media) will begin asking, “So, when are you getting married?”
Living together? Over 25? Female? You exponentially increase your chances of being placed on Wedding Watch right there. The pressure to get married is immense.
Ticking all three boxes, Miranda has been kept busy lately, denying regular reports of an engagement. “Miranda herself has clearly stated she is not engaged,” insisted her exasperated agent in December. “There is nothing else to be said.” Interestingly, no one seems to ask Orlando’s agent the same question.
I have several friends currently on Wedding Watch and they loathe it. “I’m happy to discuss the subject in detail with my close girlfriends, in private,” insists Friend #1 who has been with her partner for three years and does want to marry him one day. “But when other people ask me when we getting married, I find it unbelievably awkward. Especially in front of Tony – like as if I’m going to say, “Well, actually I think he might pop the question when we go to Noosa. What do you think, babe?’ It puts so much pressure on him to propose and I feel like it will never happen while everyone’s putting a gun to his head, loaded with an engagement ring. Why can’t they all just shut up?”
Friend #2 has been living with her boyfriend for one year, dating for two. She has the same gripe. “Over Christmas, we went to Adelaide to stay with my family,” she harrumphs. “All the relatives kept asking, “When are you two getting married?”? I felt like barking back “When are you going to lose weight and stop wearing so much fake tan?” But I didn’t because that would be INAPPROPRIATE!”
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i dont understand WHY people ask the questions - i mean, do they think you havent thought of getting married/having kids/ etc yourself? i dont see how else it's any of their business.
so i reckon, if you're standing with ur sig other and someone says "SO, when are u two getting married?" or something similar... you could always say "Oh! Honey, what a good idea! we hadnt thought of that! wanna?" Should shut them up, at least...
I got engaged about a month ago and am finally off engagement watch - and on to wedding watch! "why are u waiting so long to get married" "WE only waited six months" "OH, that wedding date's a long way off" ETC!! but im trying to enjoy these last few years before baby watch begins... :-)
it's so nice to hear i'm not the only person being asked this! i've been with my boyfriend for 4 years, living together for 2 years. Probably for the last 18 months i've been regularly fielding questions about when we're getting married - at first i was gobsmacked someone (who i didn't know very well) would ask me that, now i know what to expect at any social gathering, and i'm actually dreading how many times i will get asked at my partner's upcoming 30th birthday party...
the funny thing is this came up in conversation with my boyfriend the other day, and no one has ever, ever asked him! yet i'm constantly asked by his friends, both our families, mutual friends and complete strangers! i can't figure out why people ask the woman and not the guy!
i never felt any compulsion to get married until people started hounding me about it, now i feel like doing it just to shut them up.
though i'm still not sure what the best response is when asked, most of the time i just feel like hitting them and yelling that i'm only 23, and i have far more important things going on in my life right now.
kinda my life exactly right now =)